Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Can't believe it...

has been so long since I last updated the blog!

Tons have been going on, but I will start with our final home study meeting.  I cleaned the house and took Meredith's advice and didn't worry about cleaning out the cabinets~but I did clean out all the rest of the closets that seemed to have been neglected.  Not to alarm you, but we have handguns in our house.  They are Ty's toys, and I knew that we needed to have a safe for them. Well we didn't get one. My case worker messaged me and said that we also needed "all other safety devices."  I immediately went frantic over what that meant.  I didn't know if I needed outlet covers, door knob grippers, and all that stuff that comes when baby gets mobile.  I didn't want anything to not be perfect, but I came to the conclusion that I wasn't going out and getting that stuff then.  We did get a fire extinguisher though.  That just seemed to push me over the edge.  I was tired, done, and decided that I was washing my hands of everything that we had done to prepare for this.  The meeting and inspection went really smooth.  She asked us final questions that she need clarifying, discussed the interim house from previous meeting, and then the biggie preferences sheet came up.  This was a CRAZY set of papers.  We had to select YES/NO/WILL CONSIDER on many types of things.  We like to say that we are open and we are, but we are firm on a few areas.  It doesn't mean that we are picky, racists, or unwilling parents nor are we looking for the perfect child.  God has the perfect child to fit into our family, perfectly, forever.  We have surveyed, prayed, completed activities, and discussed all of our characteristics.  Here are some of the areas that were on the sheets:  multiples, gender, transracial, personality disorders in birthmom/father/extended family, blindness, hearing impairment, LD in family, mental disorders in family, rape, incest, HIV, STDS, physical impairments in child...and the list goes on and on.  I mean wow, this was intense.  Then we had to put on paper about how often we want birthparents to visit, have a part in naming, where visits will take place, etc.  We got through it and then we showed our case worker our profile book that we (mostly I) worked on.  She wanted us to change several things, about it being to "wordy."  She said that people don't really read now and just are looking for a quick snapshot-something that will catch his/her eye. 

Our caseworker had to go out of town and we did too, and so she will be coming back by to look at our cable locks for the guns and to pick up the profile book.  We made ours through Snapfish.  She will take it to the CLT office and then if everything is good, then we will order three more to keep in the branches. 

After that, we will OFFICIALLY be able to be seen by potential birthparents!!!!!  I can't believe it. 

The box from Snapfish can't come fast enough!